It’s time to thank myself , yes people do appreciate me it isn’t a pity party but I do take on loads ,and I felt after the year I have had personally I deserved it , it’s £70 bit more than most people spend on a bag to fill up with Toast crumbs but , I think us mums do put ourselves last a lot , so mummy’s out there and daddy’s if your a main carer and your taking too much on , or have taken too much on you need to treat yourself once in a while , and stop forgetting yourself, Yes my kids come first and yes I go without to give them more, most parents do , but today I’m saying well done me , here’s a treat we are almost at the end of a long year , my kids have had a really lovely year and have had three holidays, Disney land. French Center parcs and Spain ,oh not to mention UK Center parcs and a short break to legoland hotel actually 5 total, they have been to concerts ,well the older ones have and shows in the west end, I like them to have down time.
Autism is tough on them sometimes, I get that , they have had days out there really very lucky , I would actually love to be my child for a day , we really are giving them great experiences and for Oscar I want him to have many , he’s building such tolerances now it’s amazing.
But enough about the kids just for a second , it was a big year for us as a family ,that’s why I’ve kept us so busy , it was my first year not working and being a full time carer and I admit I struggled with it, I’ve never not worked , my job was in fostering not actually fostering, but matching children with families it was so rewarding, I loved it and maybe I will go back to it one day who knows .
I’ve also found it hard this year, as for the first time, I have felt really lonely , Oscar started school, in fact huge transitions for all three kids , one started college, one started secondary and one started school , great family planning there , I literally cried through August , us parents have it tough , I had to have a little word with myself .
I launched my idea of label free clothing ( born anxious)on oscars first day of school thinking it ,would take my mind off things and it worked to a point but I had really worked myself up into a bit of a tizz about it , so much change , now months later the label is launched , all the children are settled, yes Oscar has his moments with transition and his health issues ,but we are in a routine so for that I’m patting myself on the back .
i read a meme the other day it said ,success isn’t working yourself to exhaustion
That’s quiet powerful if you think about it , as as ASD parents all we do is evaluate them what can they manage?, what do they need support with? but what about us? What can we manage? Time to start living back in my own life, could kell be back? ……..
My resolution is to do something for myself that I enjoy, so I think I’m going to take up a class ! I don’t know what in yet!
America 2016 my kids travel well, they are everything
