I’ve been wondering if my ASD son age 5 has any Christmas feelings? Or is it all negative for him?
My other two kids 11,16 have a real Christmas sprit and love everything about our Christmas, each family celebrate in thee own way and it resonates in your kids what feels like Christmas and what doesn’t , they both love to be at home, let’s face it it’s hell isnt it when they open everything then you drag them round someone’s house for Christmas dinner, and they make it clear despite the efforts of the other people , they act up they just want to be at home , it’s tje equivalent of planning a huge party then staying at home! You let them open there gifts but because you are being entertained they have to leave there exciting gifts behind , I view this unfair so for us it’s a home day we do t go out on Christmas Day.
thry like to wTch amovie get there pjs on early and get excited before the big man visits , I really think all of this goes over the top of oscars head , he struggles to manage a daily routine let alone understand the Christmas magic I’m taking off .
i really hope if we can keep this magic alive some of it might run off on him , it’s lovely to think Christmas could be positive for him but also it’s a really big part of childhood and something you pass on , we are at the stage with the middle one werehe is questioning Santa , it’s a conversation we are never having , I won’t lie to him and idivert from it just because as a parent I’m not ok with admitting anything it marls tje emf if Christmas as they know it, we have had an issue recently we’re a teacher has told the middle child Santa didn’t exsist,again not a conversation I’m willing to have I just said I know Christmas magic is real perhaps your teacher didn’t believe as s child either and we left it there.
it got me thinking as Oscar is my last child , which I’m still gutted about, however if lorcan decided he doesn’t believe anymore , which I’m hoping isn’t the case , but if that happens obviously we will carry on our usual Christmas festivities but as Oscar doesn’t understand Christmas or show me any inclination he understands that actually is huge , as it means I have no believers in my home! Which would just be heartbreaking
we managed to keep it all alive until this year for all the children and just take the stance if you don’t believe he won’t bring you the magic it’s a two way deal and we leave the rest up to the imagination, so I think to keep it going until almost 17 is amazing but to not believe st 11 doesn’t mode well with me, I have told my middle child that Santa very well could leave him a sign , I’m hoping this works or Christmas changes for us!
